Valentine’s Day Sux
Even when I was married, it sucked. In fact, to find a non-sucky V-day, I have to remember back to when I was about four. My mom always made V-day special at home, with cards, candy from the “fancy” candy store, a special dinner, etc. She still does, and the part of V-day that I spend with family is always good.
I hated V-day when I was in school, because I never got valentines in school except for those times when the teacher said, “If you give a valentine to one person, you have to give one to everyone.” Then I got the crappy ones that no one wanted to give to anyone they remotely liked.
When I was married, my H, not the brightest nor the most observant person, usually gave me a huge assortment of chocolates, usually milk chocolate. I like dark chocolate truffles. And for three of the five V-days we were together, I was desperately trying to lose weight. He also gave me red roses, which I think are the most overrated flower on the planet. I like gerbera daisies and bells of Ireland.
Now, I wasn’t ungrateful that the H gave me something; I realise that, as he is a guy, the fact that he even thought about getting me something was a great accomplishment. But one would think that one’s spouse would know one’s tastes well enough to know that dark chocolate and gerbera daisies or bells of Ireland would thrill. Milk chocolate and roses would not. And if one is on a diet, then a pound box of chocolates of any kind is a bad idea. One or two truffles, sure, but not a pound of them. But then, this is the same guy who gave me pantry shelves for Christmas, so maybe not.
Anyway, V-day has never been great for me. And as a single mom, it hasn’t really gotten any better.
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You have to stop being so hard on yourself and life. Being without someone is never any fun, but you can make the best of it now.
Buy your own gift…you will be sure to get something you like.
Also celebrate with your kids. Who said that Valentine’s Day had to be all about the love between a couple?
From one single mother to another…I feel the same way about roses and my ex did the same thing to me when it came to gifts. I often felt that he would just pick something up without giving me a thought. It was like that for my birthday and Christmas, too. I never made it a secret when it came to what I would like to have, after all, we are talking about a man!
To all those men out there reading this comment … I know that ALL of you are not like that!
Actually, it has gotten better. No idiot bringing you the wrong crap.
Now you can treat yourself to a couple nice chocolate truffles, or a cone of gerbera daisies from the supermarket, just because you love and deserve to enjoy them.